Friends

With friends in pain it is as important to be caring as it is to be cautious. Sure I hope you are okay is good, but it is so generic. 'I hope you're okay' is something anyone can write down. If you really care you will sit for a little while and think. When a friend was sick at the age of 16 with chicken pocks days prior to a massive show she was meant to be in with me, I took the time to have a conversation. The appreciation I got from her was enough, days later I sat in her house listening to her bored rambles. It wasn't a complicated conversation just a normal everyday 'omg did you hear, jimmy...'.

Tonight one of my not so closest mates split with the girl he loved, honestly he would talk for ages about her. In this case I didn't say much, I sent him a internet hug and reminded him of his great personally warning him not to let the pain take that away and use the pain for a better him. Then I gave him space because that's what some people need. Space.

Ultimately its trying to judge the person and what they want. I can't say I'm good at it but neither are many people my age. My friends spent 3 months ignoring me because they thought that was what I would want after a little bit of a tragic time in my life, in reality I was incredibly bored and lonely. I am well known for smothering people a little bit too much when they are upset. Get the balance and you are set for life.

PRx